The Truth About Dating Asian Women: EXPOSED!
If you’re visiting this website I’ll assume it’s because you find yourself drawn towards Asian women. You probably admire beautiful women of various races, but when it comes to females of the “Asian persuasion,” your pulse starts pounding a bit quicker.
Perhaps you’ve dated Asian women before. Or, you might be curious about exploring this exotic side of the dating pool. If you’ve come to believe that these females are among the most beautiful, feminine and sensual human beings on this planet, then I say “join the club!”
The challenge is that for most men, landing a beautiful Asian girlfriend (or being with as many of these women as you desire) is often easier said than done. If you live in the Western world, you may feel that it’s challenging to find single Asian women in your area, because they don’t seem to hang out in the same places that you do.
Or, there might a good number of Asian women in your area, but you aren’t exactly sure how to approach them, start conversations, and get them interested in you. You may worry that cultural differences will get in the way, or that Asian women might feel intimidated or uncomfortable if you were to randomly approach them. Perhaps the Asian women where you live tend to stick with people of their own ethnicity, so trying to approach and introduce yourself might be awkward for both of you.
Then there are the guys who have joined dating websites and are corresponding with Asian women overseas. Chatting with Asian women on the Internet can be incredibly easy—and super addictive! (A lot of the girls in Asia are constantly in the Internet cafes, seeking foreigners to correspond with—and many of them, as I will explain later, have less-than-honest intentions.)
If you’ve been chatting with Asian girls online, perhaps you’ve identified some sweethearts that seem like they would be an ideal girlfriend or wife for you—but you haven’t actually made a trip to see them yet. Maybe such a journey is financially out of reach for you; your work schedule won’t allow it; or you’re reluctant to travel to a faraway foreign country. So what you need at this point is some honest, practical advice and information before you proceed any further.
Internet dating is an amazing resource, by the way, but you can’t spend too much time typing on a keyboard with women who live on the other side of the world—and who may be corresponding with six other foreigners at the same time. You’re going to have to go meet these women at some point. This program will show you how to do that.
Then there are readers of this book who enjoyed my Mack Tactics program and are now confidently making approaches whenever they come across beautiful women. They’ve used Mack Tactics to “turbo charge” their social lives and now have a variety of options available to them. But they prefer Asian women, and want to learn specific tactics for meeting them and perhaps landing a gorgeous Asian girlfriend.
Because the reality is, while many of the techniques I teach in Mack Tactics are universal—applicable to all women, anywhere in the world—there are some distinct differences when your goal is to build a connection with an Asian woman, whether it’s in your own country or overseas. There are mistakes you’ll need to avoid; cultural issues you’ll want to be aware of; and things you’ll need to do differently to increase your chances of success.
If any of these situations apply to you, this website has got you covered. You are sure to find a wealth of information and techniques that will help you achieve your goals.
And if your goals involve taking a trip to Asia for the first time…well, prepare to have your mind blown. The cutie you’ve been chatting with on the Internet might get pushed to the back of your mind once you actually walk the streets, malls and nightclubs of Asia, where there are literally cute women everywhere who dream of being swept off their feet by a foreigner!
With such an unbelievable number of options to choose from, you might forget about finding a girlfriend altogether and just play the field! (You’ll want to take lots of pictures, by the way, because there is no way your buddies back home will believe the stories you tell when you get back.)
And then there is another category of men: the occasional tourists who have been overseas and experienced first-hand the sheer number of beautiful, available women in Asia. These guys have their favorite vacation spot (usually, Thailand or the Philippines, the most “user-friendly” countries for foreigners), and they save their money and count the days until they can make their next visit. These guys tend to lose interest in Western women altogether, and I really can’t blame them.
But these guys don’t have the means to live in Asia or spend more than a few weeks a year there. Often, their time away from Asia starts to feel so lonely and depressing that they decide they want to find an Asian bride overseas, and bring her back to their home country. Rather than getting out and meeting new women in their area, they spend their spare time on the Internet, chatting with girls on the Asian dating sites.
If you’re a guy who has only been meeting and communicating with Asian women over the Internet, it’s time for you to get out there and start visiting the places where you can meet Asian girls in your area. Unless you live in some remote town where you simply don’t have any access to Asian women, you’ve got to start checking out your local options. I’ll explain the best ways to do this.
This “Secrets of Dating Asian Women” program is the most thorough, comprehensive, and helpful guide ever assembled on meeting, attracting, and building relationships with Asian women—whether you choose to do it on your home turf, abroad, or both.
My Own History With Asian Women
As for me, I’ve been living and working in Asia for years. I have visited many Asian countries, and I’ve dated and hooked up with literally hundreds of Asian women from every background you could imagine—from airline stewardesses, to college students, models, famous actresses and strippers.
Does this make me a “player?” The girls might tell you that I am. (The popular expression when I’m in the Philippines is that I’m a “butterfly”—always moving from one flower to the next. I playfully tell them “No, I’m a helicopter.” I move much faster!)
But whether the girl was from Hong Kong, Bangkok, Jakarta, Tokyo or Manila, I’ve shown every one of these Asian babes a great time—whether it was for one hot night, or spending two weeks with them on an exotic tropical island in the South China Sea. I don’t lie to them about my intentions.
The truth is, I’m not ready to settle down (though some of these girls have been so gorgeous and sweet that I’ve been tempted).
Personally, I still feel there are too many good times with amazing women to be had…and one thing you’ll learn about these girls is that they can be very jealous. When they attempt to “lock me down” (or start nagging with me jealous accusations), that’s usually my cue to gracefully end the relationship and move on to the next.
It’s the endless options in Asia that enable a man like me to enjoy his bachelor status to the max. Back in my home country of America, most men my age got married long ago—and not because they fell madly in love with that one wonderful, perfect woman who they wanted to grow old with. It was because basically, they were tired of not getting laid and so when they found a woman to be with (usually through random luck, not because of their charms or efforts), they quickly threw in the towel and vowed to be a faithful, committed boyfriend and then husband.
Anything to keep from having to go back to the singles scene, where they found dating to be confusing and depressing…
I started feeling attracted to Asian women many years before I made my first trip to “the source” overseas. One of my first girlfriends, when I was in high school, was a beauty from the Philippines. My friends at the time, who were preppy white guys from the Northeast United States, didn’t understand why I’d go for a girl like that. As a football-playing jock, I was supposed to be dating the blonde-haired cheerleader-types with names like “Britney” and “Buffy.” But there was always something about slim, sexy Asian girls—whether they were light-skinned Chinese, Korean or Japanese girls, or brown-skinned Filipinas with long, silky black hair—that captivated me.
I had numerous Asian girlfriends throughout college and afterwards. My longest-term relationships were with a Japanese girl when I lived in New York City (4 years) and a Filipina when I lived in Las Vegas (3 years). My love of Asian women was a big reason why I started traveling to Asia, and eventually moved myself, and my business, over to that part of the world.
I consider myself extremely fortunate to have been able to do this, and to be living in these times; prior to the Internet, I never would have had the ability to live overseas and operate my own business from anywhere in the world.
But, don’t think that my “game” isn’t equally sharp when I’m back in the U.S. I still spend a lot of time in cities like Los Angeles, Las Vegas and New York—where there are a ton of cute Asian women, and these techniques are still highly effective.
How I Came Up With This Asian Women Dating Advice…
Here’s the other interesting thing about my personal history, and the reason why I bring a unique perspective to this table. As I mentioned earlier, several years ago I wrote a popular book called Mack Tactics which teaches guys how to upgrade their skills with women, and become more confident and successful with dating.
Much of the advice I give in that book is about understanding what really attracts women to men. And it’s often not what you’ve been led to believe.
(Women have “attraction switches” that any guy can learn how to flip—and it has nothing to do with your looks or the size of your bank account. In a nutshell, it’s about projecting the right masculine qualities that all women love, and knowing how to create sexual attraction instead of just being the “nice guy” that women just want to be friends with.)
I originally started learning these techniques by hanging around guys who were incredible “naturals”—who never had to worry about meeting girls or getting laid, because they seemed able to charm any woman they came into contact with.
These guys came from different backgrounds. Some were tall and handsome, others were very ordinary-looking. Some had highly successful careers; others were barely able to pay the rent. Yet they all had terrific instincts when it came to flirting with women and generating attraction.
They seemed to possess the “magic key” that made women want to sleep with them—while most other guys (myself included, at the time) were struggling to talk to girls, paralyzed by insecurities, and wasting our time and energy on bad relationships with the wrong girls.
At the same time that I was studying their tactics and techniques, an underground movement was forming on the Internet. It was known as “the seduction community.” Thousands of guys around the world were gathering on websites and participating on message boards which were devoted to the “craft” of picking up women.
Guys would post their questions and talk about their experiences “out in the field,” and the “pickup artists”—the guys who considered themselves experts in the art of seduction—would give their tips and write about their latest conquests. Sometimes this meant successfully picking up a “perfect 10” at a nightclub, or stealing a girl away from under her boyfriend’s nose.
I spent years studying this material and developing my own methods for dating Asian women, and I became a guru in my own right when I published Mack Tactics. This book contained a powerful step-by-step blueprint which guys could use to make themselves more confident, attractive and successful with women—from achieving the right mindset and attitude, to mastering different techniques for approaching girls, starting conversations, and getting phone numbers and dates.
Some guys used “the Tactics” to enjoy one-night stands with girls every time they hit the bars and nightclubs; others used their newfound skills and confidence to find the perfect girlfriend.
The book spawned a website, www.MackTactics.com, which to this day continues to offer new programs and resources for men who want to turbo-charge their dating lives. For virtually any situation you find yourself in with a woman, there is a typical response (which is how the average guy will behave), and then there is the “Mack” response—which means showcasing your confidence, charm and personality to increase her attraction instead of making her lose interest or blow you off. It also means knowing exactly how to overcome the challenges and obstacles that inevitably come up when you’re trying to build a romantic relationship with a girl.
And so, this book you are reading is very different from other guides to Asia and its women because it combines elements of “pickup”—such as approaches, conversation tactics, dating tips, and seduction strategies—with detailed information about Asian cultures and the specific “attraction triggers” of Asian women. If you want to know where to go in Thailand to get laid for cheap, or how to plan your beach holiday in the Philippines, there are plenty of other resources for that. This book is designed to show you how to be successful with Asian women on every level.
While the experience of writing Mack Tactics made me a recognized expert on pickup and seduction, and I enjoyed flings, casual sex and relationships with women of all backgrounds, my special fascination with Asian women has always remained. By the time of my first book’s publication, I’d already made several trips to Asia. My first trip was to Japan, to meet my then-girlfriend’s family. That experience altered me forever. I’m no stranger to big, exciting cities—I was born in Manhattan, New York—but the pace, energy, and excitement of Tokyo stimulated me like no other place on earth.
And the women! They were everywhere, staring at me, smiling at me…for the first time in my life, I felt like the “exotic” one. If you’ve never visited Asia (and assuming you are not a rock star), I’m sure you have never experienced the sensation of walking into a nightclub, or strolling at the shopping mall, and literally having hundreds of attractive women give you flirtatious looks and smiles. It’s like being in the shoes of a hot young Hollywood celebrity…everywhere you go.
As mind-blowing as Tokyo was, it’s not the most “user friendly” scene for a foreigner who doesn’t speak Japanese. So living in Japan wasn’t an option for me. But once I discovered other scenes, like Indonesia, Thailand and the Philippines, I began to imagine myself as an expat. The cost of living in those countries can be extremely low, and virtually all of the women you encounter in the cities speak some English—certainly enough for you to get a phone number and a date!
The Philippines became one of my favorite places to spend time because culturally, it’s the most Westernized of Asian countries. English is taught in the schools, and Filipinos have a fascination with all things American. Yet the cost of living is a fraction of what you’ll pay in the West.
Also, due to the different eras of Philippine history during which it was colonized by other countries (including America), there has been a lot of cross-mixing of races. This is why unlike in countries like China or Japan, where women generally have the same basic physical characteristics, the women of the Philippines can vary dramatically as far as their physical features. Some have strong “oriental” features; others have Caucasian or Spanish blood and are taller and fair-skinned.
(By the way, these are the only women you’ll see working as actresses or models in the Philippines—this is the “look” that Filipinos admire, which is why Caucasian men are in such huge demand. They love a light-skinned baby!)
I’ll explain in more detail later. For now, a few important notes before we jump into the good stuff…
#1. In order to keep this book from being five thousand pages long, when I talk about “Asian women” I am referring to women from the Far East, aka “The Orient.” Most Western guys think the “Asian” label only refers to Japanese or Chinese women, but it actually includes over 40 distinct nationalities and ethnic groups ranging from the more numerous Chinese, Indian, Vietnamese and Filipinos to the less well-known Hmong, Lao, Sri Lankan and Indonesian races.
Mostly, I’ll be talking about common denominators that Asian women share. In my experience, while the women from these various countries all have interesting distinctions and unique qualities, when I talk about “Asian women” I have to speak in mostly general terms (although I will provide some specific insights into the different countries and ethnicities in Asia).
#2: Most of the comments and observations in this book refer to Asian women who either live in Asia, or were born and raised in Asia and now live in a Western country but have retained their traditional cultural values. English is a second language for these women. With Asian women who were raised in your country, you would approach them the same way you would approach a Caucasian woman. Clearly, the longer an Asian woman has been in your country, the more she will assimilate into your culture and become influenced by it. So, the information in this book is most useful with women who have not been heavily influenced by your culture and are still very much “Asian” in every sense.
#3. My book, “Secrets Of Dating Asian Women,” will inform you about all types of Asian women, but mostly we’re going to focus on hooking you up with the good ones—the women you’ll want to be in relationships with. Are all Asian women graceful, lovely, kind-hearted angels who want to fall in love and stand by their man forever, through good times and bad, sickness and health?
Hell no! There are ruthless, cold-hearted gold-diggers and scammers out there, as well as millions of women from the poorer regions of Asia who are mostly concerned with trying to hustle their way to a better life for themselves and their families. If that means deceiving a foreigner into marrying them, so be it. (He will think it’s true love, but he won’t realize the truth until it’s far too late.)
One of the purposes of this book is to help you avoid the wrong Asian women. In any third-world country (and especially in their nightlife or “red light districts”) you are bound to encounter women who are hardened hustlers who will lie, cheat and steal beyond anything you’ve ever encountered in your own country.
Looks can be very deceiving in Asia—far more so than in the Western world. That petite, “shy and innocent” exterior you are drawn towards might easily conceal the heart of a cunning scam artist.
I’m not casting any judgments on the “working girls,” and in Asia, there are a ton of them—ranging from hardcore hookers who’ve had more pricks than a second-hand dart board, to girls who are genuinely sweet and don’t want to be hustling for a living, but their circumstances leave them little choice. I’ll give you more information on this side of “the game” later, but basically, with so many good girls in Asia seeking genuine relationships, I don’t see any point in trying to “rescue” women from lives of prostitution and mold them into the girlfriend or wife of your dreams. As kind as your intentions may be, this is a recipe for disaster in 99% of the cases that I’ve seen. And trust me, I’ve seen a lot.
As long as you’ve got a healthy level of self-confidence, and an understanding of Asian women, their cultural values, and what attracts them to a man, you can take your pick. This program will arm you with these tools.
One other note: among Asian women, there is often a large difference between those who were raised in the poorer rural areas or remote islands, and those who come from larger cities or middle/upper class backgrounds.
The city girls have typically had more exposure to foreign men—the ones who live and work there, and those who visit as tourists. This will be especially true if she works in a service industry job (at a restaurant, hotel, mall, etc) where she interacts with foreigners on a daily basis. These girls tend to be less shy than the girls from the “provinces” and will have more in common with you, since they usually enjoy Western movies, music, fashion, etc. This also means that there will be less of a culture shock if you do wind up bringing one of these women to your country.
So, when looking for an Asian girlfriend to possibly marry and bring to your country, consider her background as well as whether she’ll be comfortable sharing your lifestyle. An executive from New York City or London is going to have very little in common with a simple girl from a province in the Philippines or Thailand, and she may feel completely overwhelmed and out of place if you were to bring her to where you live.
On the flip side, if you come from a small town or rural area (such as the American Midwest or the English countryside), I wouldn’t suggest trying to marry a sophisticated girl from a city like Tokyo, Singapore or Hong Kong—unless you are truly in love with each other. Her lifestyle is fine where she is, and it’s what she is used to.
The bottom line is, Asian women who’ve lived their entire lives in the countryside, removed from Western influences, are usually going to be a lot more traditional and conservative than the city girls (or girls who’ve spent time in the West). Typically, these “simpler” girls are the ones that Western guys want to meet because they feel they make the best partners.
But just be sure to think beyond the sex! Sharing your bed with an exotic, beautiful Asian woman is an experience every heterosexual man should envy, but will you have anything else in common with her? How long will it be before the thrill of the sex starts to fade, and you begin to feel that this girl doesn’t really understand you at all?
If you desire the “simple life” with a simple woman who asks only that you love and support her, then this type of arrangement might be great for you. In my case, I need a bit of an intellectual challenge. This means that I focus my efforts on girls in the larger cities, who tend to worldlier, more confident, and have goals and passions — beyond finding a man to support them.