Here’s the other interesting thing about my personal history, and the reason why I bring a unique perspective to this table. As I mentioned earlier, several years ago I wrote a popular book called Mack Tactics which teaches guys how to upgrade their skills with women, and become more confident and successful with dating.
Much of the advice I give in this website is about understanding what really attracts women to men. And it’s often not what you’ve been led to believe.
(Women have “attraction switches” that any guy can learn how to flip—and it has nothing to do with your looks or the size of your bank account. In a nutshell, it’s about projecting the right masculine qualities that all women love, and knowing how to create sexual attraction instead of just being the “nice guy” that women just want to be friends with.)
I originally started learning these techniques by hanging around guys who were incredible “naturals”—who never had to worry about meeting girls or getting laid, because they seemed able to charm any woman they came into contact with.
These guys came from different backgrounds. Some were tall and handsome, others were very ordinary-looking. Some had highly successful careers; others were barely able to pay the rent. Yet they all had terrific instincts when it came to flirting with women and generating attraction.
They seemed to possess the “magic key” that made women want to sleep with them—while most other guys (myself included, at the time) were struggling to talk to girls, paralyzed by insecurities, and wasting our time and energy on bad relationships with the wrong girls.
At the same time that I was studying their tactics and techniques, an underground movement was forming on the Internet. It was known as “the seduction community.” Thousands of guys around the world were gathering on websites and participating on message boards which were devoted to the “craft” of picking up women.
Guys would post their questions and talk about their experiences “out in the field,” and the “pickup artists”—the guys who considered themselves experts in the art of seduction—would give their tips and write about their latest conquests. Sometimes this meant successfully picking up a “perfect 10” at a nightclub, or stealing a girl away from under her boyfriend’s nose.
I spent years studying this material and developing methods of my own, and I became a guru in my own right when I published Mack Tactics. This book contained a powerful step-by-step blueprint which guys could use to make themselves more confident, attractive and successful with women—from achieving the right mindset and attitude, to mastering different techniques for approaching girls, starting conversations, and getting phone numbers and dates.
Some guys used “the Tactics” to enjoy one-night stands with girls every time they hit the bars and nightclubs; others used their newfound skills and confidence to find the perfect girlfriend.
The book spawned a website, http://www.macktactics.net, which to this day continues to offer new programs and resources for men who want to turbo-charge their dating lives. For virtually any situation you find yourself in with a woman, there is a typical response (which is how the average guy will behave), and then there is the “Mack” response—which means showcasing your confidence, charm and personality to increase her attraction instead of making her lose interest or blow you off. It also means knowing exactly how to overcome the challenges and obstacles that inevitably come up when you’re trying to build a romantic relationship with a girl.
And so, this website you are reading is very different from other guides to Asia and its women because it combines elements of “pickup”—such as approaches, conversation tactics, dating tips, and seduction strategies—with detailed information about Asian cultures and the specific “attraction triggers” of Asian women. If you want to know where to go in Thailand to get laid for cheap, or how to plan your beach holiday in the Philippines, there are plenty of other resources for that. This book is designed to show you how to be successful with Asian women on every level.
While the experience of writing Mack Tactics made me a recognized expert on pickup and seduction, and I enjoyed flings, casual sex and relationships with women of all backgrounds, my special fascination with Asian women has always remained. By the time of my first book’s publication, I’d already made several trips to Asia. My first trip was to Japan, to meet my then-girlfriend’s family. That experience altered me forever. I’m no stranger to big, exciting cities—I was born in Manhattan, New York—but the pace, energy, and excitement of Tokyo stimulated me like no other place on earth.
And the women! They were everywhere, staring at me, smiling at me…for the first time in my life, I felt like the “exotic” one. If you’ve never visited Asia (and assuming you are not a rock star), I’m sure you have never experienced the sensation of walking into a nightclub, or strolling at the shopping mall, and literally having hundreds of attractive women give you flirtatious looks and smiles. It’s like being in the shoes of a hot young Hollywood celebrity…everywhere you go.
As mind-blowing as Tokyo was, it’s not the most “user friendly” scene for a foreigner who doesn’t speak Japanese. So living in Japan wasn’t an option for me. But once I discovered other scenes, like Indonesia, Thailand and the Philippines, I began to imagine myself as an expat. The cost of living in those countries can be extremely low, and virtually all of the women you encounter in the cities speak some English—certainly enough for you to get a phone number and a date!
The Philippines became one of my favorite places to spend time because culturally, it’s the most Westernized of Asian countries. English is taught in the schools, and Filipinos have a fascination with all things American. Yet the cost of living is a fraction of what you’ll pay in the West.
Also, due to the different eras of Philippine history during which it was colonized by other countries (including America), there has been a lot of cross-mixing of races. This is why unlike in countries like China or Japan, where women generally have the same basic physical characteristics, the women of the Philippines can vary dramatically as far as their physical features. Some have strong “oriental” features; others have Caucasian or Spanish blood and are taller and fair-skinned.
(By the way, these are the only women you’ll see working as actresses or models in the Philippines—this is the “look” that Filipinos admire, which is why Caucasian men are in such huge demand. They love a light-skinned baby!)
I’ll explain in more detail later. For now, a few important notes before we jump into the good stuff…
#1. In order to keep this website from being five thousand pages long, when I talk about “Asian women” I am referring to women from the Far East, aka “The Orient.” Most Western guys think the “Asian” label only refers to Japanese or Chinese women, but it actually includes over 40 distinct nationalities and ethnic groups ranging from the more numerous Chinese, Indian, Vietnamese and Filipinos to the less well-known Hmong, Lao, Sri Lankan and Indonesian races.
Mostly, I’ll be talking about common denominators that Asian women share. In my experience, while the women from these various countries all have interesting distinctions and unique qualities, when I talk about “Asian women” I have to speak in mostly general terms (although I will provide some specific insights into the different countries and ethnicities in Asia).
#2: Most of the comments and observations in this website refer to Asian women who either live in Asia, or were born and raised in Asia and now live in a Western country but have retained their traditional cultural values. English is a second language for these women. With Asian women who were raised in your country, you would approach them the same way you would approach a Caucasian woman. Clearly, the longer an Asian woman has been in your country, the more she will assimilate into your culture and become influenced by it. So, the information in this book is most useful with women who have not been heavily influenced by your culture and are still very much “Asian” in every sense.
#3. This website will inform you about all types of Asian women, but mostly we’re going to focus on hooking you up with the good ones—the women you’ll want to be in relationships with. Are all Asian women graceful, lovely, kind-hearted angels who want to fall in love and stand by their man forever, through good times and bad, sickness and health?
Hell no! There are ruthless, cold-hearted gold-diggers and scammers out there, as well as millions of women from the poorer regions of Asia who are mostly concerned with trying to hustle their way to a better life for themselves and their families. If that means deceiving a foreigner into marrying them, so be it. (He will think it’s true love, but he won’t realize the truth until it’s far too late.)
One of the purposes of this website is to help you avoid the wrong Asian women. In any third-world country (and especially in their nightlife or “red light districts”) you are bound to encounter women who are hardened hustlers who will lie, cheat and steal beyond anything you’ve ever encountered in your own country.
Looks can be very deceiving in Asia—far more so than in the Western world. That petite, “shy and innocent” exterior you are drawn towards might easily conceal the heart of a cunning scam artist.
I’m not casting any judgments on the “working girls,” and in Asia, there are a ton of them—ranging from hardcore hookers who’ve had more pricks than a second-hand dart board, to girls who are genuinely sweet and don’t want to be hustling for a living, but their circumstances leave them little choice. I’ll give you more information on this side of “the game” later, but basically, with so many good girls in Asia seeking genuine relationships, I don’t see any point in trying to “rescue” women from lives of prostitution and mold them into the girlfriend or wife of your dreams. As kind as your intentions may be, this is a recipe for disaster in 99% of the cases that I’ve seen. And trust me, I’ve seen a lot.
As long as you’ve got a healthy level of self-confidence, and an understanding of Asian women, their cultural values, and what attracts them to a man, you can take your pick. This program will arm you with these tools.
One other note: among Asian women, there is often a large difference between those who were raised in the poorer rural areas or remote islands, and those who come from larger cities or middle/upper class backgrounds.
The city girls have typically had more exposure to foreign men—the ones who live and work there, and those who visit as tourists. This will be especially true if she works in a service industry job (at a restaurant, hotel, mall, etc) where she interacts with foreigners on a daily basis. These girls tend to be less shy than the girls from the “provinces” and will have more in common with you, since they usually enjoy Western movies, music, fashion, etc. This also means that there will be less of a culture shock if you do wind up bringing one of these women to your country.
So, when looking for an Asian girlfriend to possibly marry and bring to your country, consider her background as well as whether she’ll be comfortable sharing your lifestyle. An executive from New York City or London is going to have very little in common with a simple girl from a province in the Philippines or Thailand, and she may feel completely overwhelmed and out of place if you were to bring her to where you live.
On the flip side, if you come from a small town or rural area (such as the American Midwest or the English countryside), I wouldn’t suggest trying to marry a sophisticated girl from a city like Tokyo, Singapore or Hong Kong—unless you are truly in love with each other. Her lifestyle is fine where she is, and it’s what she is used to.
The bottom line is, Asian women who’ve lived their entire lives in the countryside, removed from Western influences, are usually going to be a lot more traditional and conservative than the city girls (or girls who’ve spent time in the West). Typically, these “simpler” girls are the ones that Western guys want to meet because they feel they make the best partners.
But just be sure to think beyond the sex! Sharing your bed with a beautiful young Asian woman is an experience every heterosexual man should envy, but will you have anything else in common with her? How long will it be before the thrill of the sex starts to fade, and you begin to feel that this girl doesn’t really understand you at all?
If you desire the “simple life” with a simple woman who asks only that you love and support her, then this type of arrangement might be great for you. In my case, I need a bit of an intellectual challenge. This means that I focus my efforts on girls in the larger cities, who tend to worldlier, more confident, and have goals and passions (beyond finding a guy to support them).