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How to Chat to Girls on Facebook
Okay – so, you are online. And SHE is online. And you are waiting, and waiting and waiting – to get your confidence to approach her. OR you are harassing and boring her to death with dumb questions that will get her to IGNORE you, BIG TIME. Either way – you’re messing up. Either because you are doing NOTHING or because what you’re doing you’re doing it the wrong way.
It’s very important that you TAKE INITIATIVE. If you get signs from a girl that she’s interested, at least a bit – start a conversation. Don’t wait for her to fall from the SKY – she probably won’t. Yes, if SHE sends you a Friends request and initiates contact, and you like her, keep the ball rolling, help her out. If, on the other hand (which is the case with most guys) she didn’t initiate contact – you should give it a try. This leads us to a simple question –
What the hell should you talk about, and how should you start chatting with her?
It’s not so complicated. Just don’t get scared useless. If you are worried about what you should talk about, then you either a) have no imagination b) don’t do anything with your life. You have to DO stuff (travel, work out, study, have a hobby, walk a dog, do sports, learn a language, have a passion – ANYTHING) so that you have a certain topic. Avoid talking about negative stuff. She doesn’t give a damn about your job, or some other BORING stuff. Don’t talk about being sick, bored, feeling like crap – or ANY other negative shit that leads nowhere.
Be different by being more positive than all the other guys hitting on her. If you can leave her with a smile after chatting with you, she might end up wanting to wake up next to you. Or at least share a bed for a while. So here’s what you can chat about: talk stuff. Yep – that’s all. Talk stuff. If you don’t know how – practice. Don’t ask her PERSONAL questions before you talked stuff a lot. Talk about her DOG, your dog, whatever. Laugh about it. See what you have in common. Don’t get into politics, religion and other complicated subjects BEFORE you sleep with her. Don’t even THINK about arguing with her – the point is to make your first chat FUN. That’s it.
Appear NON-threatening, (as in – don’t give her the impression that you are a guy that’s jerking off to her pictures – which you are! I know it). No, seriously – don’t show interest, let her do it first. And, most importantly – Once you got her smiling, and you feel like everything is going “great” – the most important thing to do is LEAVE. Yes – LEAVE.
Every guy is STUPID. The moment a girl chick gives a chump the smallest amount of attention/positive feedback – he goes NUTS like a monkey and wants to have sex with her immediately. Don’t be another guy like that. Most guys stick around, and wait for her to say “BYE” or just leave Facebook’s chat. That’s just not the right way. Instead – at the BEST moment, when she thinks you’re a really cool guy etc. etc. and she wants to find out more about you. Just say: “Hey (her-name), really nice talking to you, you seem cool, I have to go to (do X important thing), talk to you later”.
And that’s it. You’re out, you made a good impression, you made first contact, and now kick back and wait. She’ll start checking out your profile from time to time, and maybe contacts you again.