Bar Tactics: How To Flirt With And Pick Up Women At Bars
by Dean Cortez
So do you also want to learn some tricks on how to pick up girls you like without freezing? For men who do not have a lot of experience when it comes to women, things can be a tad difficult but once you understand everything it becomes easier thereafter. These tactics I am about to share with you have their underpinnings on the psychology of women.
How To Pick Up Girls At Bars
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #1: Display Social Value
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t directly approach a girl you like and introduce yourself just like that. Let her notice your personality, charisma and social clout first so you can build massive amounts of attraction. To put it simply, you have to display traits that attract women. For example, make sure your crowd is loving your company; converse with some of the bartenders, waiters and waitresses you know; approach and talk to other friends you know in the room.
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #2: Don’t Let Your Attraction Be Obvious
If you think that by being that nice guy and showering a girl with too much attention, you’re turning her on, you’ve been misinformed. This is the reason why players get laid easily than nice guys. I didn’t say that you’re going to be a jerk. Just give her an impression that you want to chat with her but if she’s not digging it, you’re cool with it. If you’ve conveyed your social value well, she would know that if she refuses to talk to you, you won’t be affected at all. She witnessed how people gravitate toward you because they enjoy your company. In the process, you become the prize.
One way of doing this is by stating beforehand that you’re not going to take too much of her time. Here’s a great example:
“Hi, I know you guys are having fun and I don’t want to eat too much of your time. I saw you a few minutes ago and I think you look gorgeous. I just thought I’d drop by and tell you that”.
She will smile and thank you for the compliment, do as you said and leave afterwhich.
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #3: Make Use of Neutral or Flirt Openers
From the name itself you can tell that neutral openers are the opposite of flirt openers. With neutral openers, you have to make an observation about the girl and make statements or questions related to what you’ve observed.
Using neutral openers generally create an impression that you appreciate her and you value what she has to say about certain topics. The goal is to use topics that would make her open up to you. Women gravitate toward men who don’t see them as someone they can have great sex with. Don’t get me wrong, for some this might be their goal but the point is, you don’t make it obvious. Or else, she’ll just reject you just like that. If you want to call these rituals it’s okay but the truth is women warm up to these strategies easily.
Further, if you want to use flirt openers, make sure you’re sure of your game. If you’re sure she’s 100% into you, you can use flirt openers. When you know how to approach a girl you like using flirt openers, you’ve reached that macking rock star status.
I’ll tell you a quick story to illustrate what I’m talking about. Last Saturday night, me and my buddy Hunter visited one of the most popular nightclubs in Miami. The place was packed with hot girls…lots of wanna-be models, actresses, and even some famous porn chicks who think they’re “all that.”
These are girls who shoot down guys for FUN. And they NEVER pay for their own drinks, because there is always an endless supply of loser guys who will buy them drinks just to get a moment of their time.
Hunter and I know, these types of girls require a slightly different set of tactics…
The name of the game is TEASING. The idea is to “bust on” these chicks (not in an obnoxious way, in a playful way), challenge them, and frame yourself as the “prize” that THEY need to try to win. You can’t come off like some ordinary, average dude who is trying to earn their approval.
So, my buddy Hunter started chatting with a gorgeous 24-year-old blonde with the best pair of breasts money can buy.
She gave a witty response, and Hunter laughed, and as he took a sip of his beer, he told her…
“You’re kind of cute, you know that? It’s too bad you’re not my type.”
Then, Hunter changed the subject and started talking about a ski trip he went on recently…
The look on that girl’s face was priceless…as he kept on talking, she was trying to figure out WHY he had suddenly “disqualified” her! (This is shocking to a hot girl, because normally guys are kissing her ass and trying to get her approval!)
She’s thinking, “WHAT did he just say? I’m not his type?? But I’m EVERY guy’s type!!”
So on the one hand, she was a little bit pissed off and confused…
But on the other hand, you could see that she was even MORE curious about Jay after he said that!
She tossed her hair back and started using really “flirty” body language…because she wanted him to show that he WAS into her.
Hunter, however, has studied the Mack Tactics program and he knows NOT to give the girl what she wants right away. What she wanted was validation. He wanted her to SHOW her that he was interested in her, too. But instead, he said “I have to go say hello to some friends. Stay right here, I’ll be back in a minute.” And then he turned his back and walked away, leaving her standing there…
When he came back, she was standing there looking like a lost puppy, holding his beer, waiting for him…and you KNOW she was thinking, “What’s the deal with this guy? He is SO ridiculously sure of himself…is he rich? Does he have a fourteen-inch dick? Why isn’t he acting like all the other guys, and trying to buy me drinks?”
Basically, she felt insecure, “off balance,” and most of all she was ATTRACTED. Because this guy behaved in the opposite manner of all the nervous, boring boneheads who were always aproaching her.
This is when my friend Hunter “switched gears” and took it to the next step. He used one of the Cold Read techniques that you’
“You know, Tina, I can tell that because you look a certain way, guys make assumptions about you. I bet most guys never take the time to really know you, and understand what you’re about. But you’re actually more sensitive, and a lot deeper, than even some of your friends realize…”
So, he pays her this little compliment, which also makes him seem like a thoughtful, perceptive guy. And the really cool thing about these “Cold Reads” is that it gets the girl to open up, and feel comfortable with you, and start sharing on a deeper level. She’ll tell you things about herself that she would normally never tell some dude she just met a few minutes ago…
They’d just be standing there, trying not to stare at her perfect body, struggling to make “small talk”…
Anyway, my friend brought her home that night, and it was a great example of how to use Mack Tactics to “close the deal” with a girl.