Developing the Right Mindset To Attract Asian Women

If you’re interested in meeting quality Asian beauties and want to know how to start conversations with girls in any situation, first I want to ask you one very important question:

When it comes to women, do you believe in abundance, or do you believe in scarcity? This is the key factor that separates the “babe magnets” from the average, frustrated guys.

Guys who have a scarcity mentality believe that single, attractive women are in very short supply. Therefore, they feel they need to chase women, try to impress them, and spend money. Once they’re into a girl, they’ll do anything it takes to date them!

“Scarcity guys” are always getting hung up on one particular girl. And if the girl rejects him or gives him the “I like you…as a friend” speech, he feels frustrated and depressed because he worries that these opportunities rarely come along. He tells himself that he “blew his big chance.”

Then, there are the guys who believe in abundance. These guys know that the universe has provided us with an endless supply of fun, sexy, single women. (Which is the truth, when you’ve got a healthy level of self-confidence and the skills to meet new women.)

These guys know that where they live, and the places where they hang out, contain any number of great options for having fun and meeting girls. They know how to approach women and form connections with them.

The “abundance attitude” guy knows there are literally an endless number of women who want to be with him! (And this is very true if he’s able to make occasional trips to Asia.) Therefore, there is no reason for him to worry about finding a girlfriend right now, or worrying about whether a particular girl will ever return his phone call.

In reality, this world we live in is FILLED with opportunities—especially if you possess the right level of confidence and an understanding of how to attract Asian women (instead of having to always pursue them).

The other part of having an abundance mentality is that YOU become “scarce” to women. In other words, you are not always available to them.

Being a “scarce resource” to women means:

• You don’t give one woman all of your time and attention. You never act clingy or needy. This type of guy repels Asian women, because the men in their culture keep their emotions in check. “Real” men in Asia don’t whine, complain or act needy.

• You don’t lavish gifts on her, or spend an unnecessary amount of money on dates. You know that having her meet you for coffee or drinks is much better for a first date than taking her out to an expensive dinner. (I’ll cover this more later, in our chapter on Dating Tactics.)

• You’re not available to talk to her on the phone or chat on the internet whenever she is in the mood, or see her any night of the week that she’s free to see you.

Once you start meeting new women on a regular basis and getting them attracted to you, and then limit your availability so they don’t always have access to you, you’ll be amazed by how much harder they are going to work for your attention.

My rule of thumb with Asian women: When I’m spending time with a girl, I give her my complete, undivided attention. I make her feel special. But when I’m not with her, she knows that I’m a busy guy with things to do and business to handle. She’s not going to get a response whenever she texts my phone to see what I’m up to. I make it clear to women that my time is valuable and limited. (This also makes it easier to “juggle” a few different girls, if you wish to; they won’t complain about you not always being available, as long as you establish the fact that you are busy man.) The other benefit is that women will appreciate the time you do spend with them, because they know you have a lot of other things you could be doing.

There’s a phrase that salesmen and marketers use, which is called “perceived value.” This means is if you create the perception that your product is scarce and in short supply—whether it’s true or not—people are going to want it that much more. With Asian females, you want to be the “scarce and valuable guy.” The busier you appear to be, and the more active and interesting your social life seems to be, the more value women will place on you (and your time).

If she calls you on the phone to chat, and you tell her you can only talk for a minute because you’re heading out the door to a birthday party for your friend, she’ll know that you’ve got other options. You’re not the typical lonely, over-eager guy who clings to any woman who shows him interest. Her jealous, competitive instincts might begin to tingle (she’s thinking, is this “friend” having the birthday party a female?), but this is a good thing. If she thinks that you have a full social life that may involve other women, she’s going to want to win you.

I often tell girls that I need to go “take care of some business.” This sends the message that I’m a guy who is moving forward in life and is serious about my future; I won’t put important work aside to chat endlessly on the internet or engage in pointless back-and-forth texting. While the girl might whine a little about not being able to have my undivided attention, as an Asian woman, she respects a man who is focused on his business and solidifying his future. It’s a future she will want to be a part of.

Tags: Attract Asian Babes, Attract Asian girls, attract asian women

Category: Attract Asian Women